I will never forget the day Keith Carlson told me our 7th grade Home Economics teacher said I was a bossy girl. We were sitting in our assigned “kitchenette” and I became indignant. That moment could have changed me. It might have crushed my confidence. Instead, I embraced the bossy girl in me.
If you are raising a bossy girl, here are some tips to transition your perception of her bossiness into effective leadership.
Signs That Your Daughter May Be a Strong Leader
Is your daughter a strong leader? Do you suspect that she might grow up to be an effective and proactive leader? Or maybe you aren’t sure what to look for. Still others might wonder why bother – does it matter if you discover leadership abilities early? Actually, some sources say it does matter. Observing leadership qualities early means parents, teachers and caregivers can work to develop those talents so they do not fall by the wayside.
If you want to make sure you develop your daughter’s leadership qualities, here are some signs to watch for. Some of them may surprise you!
Does it sometimes drive you crazy that your daughter talks so much? Actually, being talkative may be a sign of things to come. A chatty nature indicates a daughter with excellent verbal skills, which are important for good leaders. Did your daughter talk early and proficiently? This may be a sign that he or she will be a good leader.
Treats Others with Respect
If you notice that your daughter seems to end up in responsible positions – team captain, for instance, or band director – and you know he didn’t get that position because of “muscling” his way to the top or bullying others, then this may be a sign of leadership ability. Notice if your daughter seems to have others “gravitate” toward her and wish to emulate her. Take note whether or not this is due to respectful treatment. If it is, you may have a strong leader on your hands.
Sees Both Sides
Some kids show an ability to understand both sides of an issue. They tend to be peace keepers, helping two arguing kids to see reason, for instance.
In the Know
Does your daughter always know what’s going on? Is he or she always aware of the latest happening at school or in the family? This is not the same as being a gossip (that’s not a good leadership quality), but it does mean that he or she is paying attention and interested in what’s going on with others.
A good leader is not afraid to ask questions, but he/she is not afraid to go looking for answers on his own, either. Too much questioning may show self-doubt – your daughter is always trying to make sure about things – but healthy questions that spring from a true desire to know more about something may be a sign of leadership ability.